Are Narcissists Unable to Contrrol Themselves? - Excerpt from What Makes Narcissists Tick by Cathy Krajko

If you know a narcissist, you already know the answer to that question. Here's an example that fits their MO.

Narcissist walks into a room. There is a young, unmarried female colleague or his wife. He takes a quick glance around the room and sees that no one else is there. Then he abuses the woman, cruelly mocking her in some way.

Several hours later, he enters the same room. There she is again. But this time a half-dozen other people are present as well. He goes up to her and accosts her in the friendliest tone, complimenting her on something and just really gobbing the make-up on his image.

Now, as that question again: Are those poor, poor narcissists unable to control themselves? Answer: If the narcissist resisted his predatory urges the second time, he could have resisted them the first time.

And, by the way, what is the song and dance we hear about narcissists not "meaning" to hurt people? Since the narcissist knew how to treat the woman decently the second time, he intended to threat her indecently the first time.

Reasonable people can and do disagree about many things, but this is not one of them. There is a definite right and wrong answer to this question, and only the willfully blind and irrational refuse to know that narcissists can and do control their behavior.

If fact, they calculate it.